性爱之后

Christopher & Leslie:

"Doesn't work like that, Christopher. Love is not negotiable."

"Oh baby. Everything is negotiable."

"No, not love. Not love. Love is a guessing game. And that's the beauty of it. There's no guarantee. It's like, diving into a pool of water without knowing if it's shallow or deep. And sure yeah, if shallow you may end up hurt and paralyze from the neck down. But if it's deep, you know, it's a loop of faith. It's like, throwing yourself out there without any guarantees. Dude, that's what life is about. Ok, you know those carnival games? And you know some of them are really hard to win and some of them are super easy and everyone wins?"

"Sure."

"That's the difference between love and sex. Sex is the game where everyone wins a little prize and no one goes home a loser. And love is the game that it's really hard to win. But if you do, and you get to take home that life-size stuffed rhinoceros. It feels a whole lot better than taking home a cheap plastic key chain."

[欢愉之后].After.Sex.2007.Festival.DVDRiP.XviD-iNTiMiD.avi

内容全，男男女女的都有，各个年龄段的都有，各个职业的，跨越人种的，超越国籍的，几小段的故事。可惜讨论的都是些残羹冷炙，没新的东西，拿袋饼干边吃边看吧

"Love is not negotiable.
Love is a guessing game,
and that’s the beauty of it.

There are no guarantees.
It’s like diving into a pool of water
without knowing if its shallow or deep
and sure [yeah] if its shallow you end up
hurt and paralyzed from the neck down,
but if it's deep…
[you know] it's a leap of faith…
its like throwing yourself out there without
any guarantees, and that’s what life’s about.

You know those carnival games,
you know how some of them are really hard to win
and those that are super easy and everyone wins
well… that’s the difference between love and sex
Sex is the game where everyone wins a little prize
and no one goes home a loser
and Love is the game that’s really hard to win.
but if you do and you get to take home that
life size stuffed rhinoceros
and it feels a whole lot better than taking
home that little shitty plastic key chain."

What is love? Who can specify it?
Except falling in love at the first sight, does love exist in other forms?
Maybe it's when love exists in other forms that it's so difficult for us to admit or to know that we love the other.

Sex and love are separable, but sex and love are blended
for the people in the stories of this movie. That's why after sex they
argued or talked so much.

The old couple wanted so much to tell their happy and wild sex they had in their younger days to their children, but they were afraid their children wouldn't be able to accpept it. They weren't sure how their children would react to it. We, as children, date, fool around, have sex behind parents. The experiences may be good, or bad. But whether it's good or bad, we want so much to share them with our parents just as the old couple wanted to share with their children. If it's good, we want to share the happiness with them; if it's bad, we wish we could turn to them for company.

But we dare not to tell them. We conceal the experiences we care most from the ones whom we want to confide to most. We and our parents cannot open our hearts to each other. Who should be blamed for this? Why can't we take sex naturally and admit all types of sex? We all hate to be constrained by moral rules and social codes, but they are made by us. Why we human beings torture ourselves?

中午看了，有彻肤之感，那短暂的快感过后，会发生争吵，不愿去面对一切的现实，由来的是更多空洞感，那感觉很吓人很害怕。

探讨两性问题十分好的影片，片中的主人公都因为自己被社会上的偏见思维所困挠：
        第一对，男方因为婚姻中的男人责任比较重，抱怨男女不平等，而不愿意与女方进入稳定关系，而只承认性伙伴，但依然希望女方先说爱自己，而女方也不说，最后还是男的妥协了，先表白；
                所以女方你也可以大胆的追呀！
        第二对，因为内心恐同，而不愿意承认自己性取向的男孩，演员是，无耻之徒里的小米奇，演得不错，内心恐惧，又迷惑的无助，打动我了！
                所以不要在恐同了，恐同很可能是深柜，it is ok to be gay!
        第三对，母亲因为女儿的性行为而担心，其实两个孩子什么都知道，还大胆谈论自己的往事；世代不同了；
                所以父母不要总认为孩子是你眼中的那个纯洁天使！
        第四对，都想撇清自己是gay,一方是自己心里早知道但怕别人知道，而另方确实不是但喜欢对方带给自己的高潮快感！
                所以有同性性行为不一定是gay！
        第五对， 母亲想向子女讲诉父母亲年轻时候的故事，但又害怕子女引以为耻，因为他们相识性派对，还玩过换妻和群交；
                所以子女也不要认为父母是什么楷模榜样；
        第六对，瘦长的摇滚歌手总向橄榄球教练男友说明自己是同志关系中男性一方，而男友认为，没有必要考虑别人怎么分，都是男人，只要相爱；
                所以不要标签化，说同志关系中总有一方担任女性角色！
        第七对，放不下前夫的妻子，再次与前夫偷情，想把两人的问题再次摊开来说明白，但是前夫依然为自己花心的行为辩解，并且质问前妻为什么欺骗现在的男友与自己上床；
                
        第八对，一次随意的性后，两人才发现连名字都不知道，在随后的交谈中，女方大方承认自己是应召女郎；而后又自己12岁上过自己叔叔，男的无法接受，然后崩溃，最后戏剧般的转折;